Because we’re guys, it might be easier to start with this:
At no stage through the entire process, should the groom say the words “I don’t care” when asked his opinion. Always offer input and your opinion tactfully. Sometimes the groom will have to tailor his opinion in order to build her confidence on a decision. The groom’s ‘get out of jail free’ response - “whatever you want honey, I just want you to be happy.”
- Don’t ever say, “Just tell me when to show up.” As the groom, you will make your life easier and your soon to be wife so much happier if you show a little interest.
- Don’t complain about the cost of things. Explain your budget to your vendors and see what they can offer you within your budget. Prioritize what is most important to both of you; so that you know what you can skimp on and what you can’t.
- Don’t skimp on the bar or the entertainment. A good party needs lots of free drinks and a jamming band.
- Don’t spend every waking moment together talking about and planning the wedding.
Set aside time at least once a week, in which you spend relaxing quality time together.
- Don’t leave gift registration responsibilities all to your bride. You will need house stuff, like duvet covers, china, new glasses, but show your interest by noting which store has the wine glasses you like; or which store has the best appliances to meet your needs. Pick things of a varying price range to allow all your guests to buy a gift that is within their means; suggest affordable stores like Mr Price Home, the Hub or Sheet Street.
- Don’t wait to be told to do something.
Volunteer and offer to do things before she asks you to. It will make you look interested and save you from the, “I can’t do this all by myself” drama.
- Don’t think everything is under your control. No matter how well you plan, no matter how many times you double check everything, something will happen that you can’t control. Don’t sweat it, just laugh it off.
- Don’t forget that this is supposed to be fun! So if things get hectic, take your future Bride aside and tell her how excited you are to be marrying her. Then do something that’s not wedding related for the rest of the day.